marriage

To the amusement of all, the first time I proposed to a girl was at the age of 5 in the kindergarden. I literally asked the girl to be my wife and I told her I will take care of her. Now I come to think of it, I feel all too amused by it. What makes me like the memory was that the girl did not rejected me. innocently, We became really close friends not considering the commitments or responsibilities of any kind. That was one of the fondest memories of a girl I had during childhood. I considered better than any bgr relationship I gotten into. I guess to a certain extend, knowledge is harmful. Girls somehow hated me regardless of how I treated them. So when reaching primary school, I dislike a lot of them.

Anyway, back on topic, marriage. Surely it has been on every guys mind at a certain point or season. considerations of it and all. I remember during secondary school, it is an unspoken rule that those who grow up to not have a wife will die a sad sad sad life. So begun the plight of hunting for a girlfriend. If any girls read this, yes. Lame. I know. But to us, we rather be lame than think we d lead a sad lonely life at that time. Anyway, with all sharing the same mind that only sad and unwanted people don't have girlfriends, i spend a lot of time with my secondary school exchanging notes on pleasing girls. All the techniques that we have used that brought success were treated as some kind of secret weapon. Or at least that was how I treated it. And when it didn't work, I started scratching my head. it also didn't take me long to notice that it was not trophies and wins in competitions that attracts the girl I really want. Oh. I don't really know which girl I wanted then also. At that time, any girl who scores as a pretty girl is a girl I want. Of course that changed so much now. Now. I have absolutely no idea what kind of girl I want. Hahahaha.

If not for me thinking about it again, I would not be posting it. But I started reflecting upon my thoughts. of course, 1 1 starts refining his thoughts along side Gods thoughts to change for the better, so motives, wants changes to fit a purpose more desireable towards pleasing God. Still that does not changes the fact that I do crave for a future of getting married. Not now, definitely. But in the future not too distant. So I found myself asking God. "how will I know the right one has arrive?" that was one of the few times God didn't take long to respond. In fact. He gave me answers for the whole day in different part's. 

There is a prince who lives on his own with a whole country belonging to him. The prince has completed no little exploits and gained favour in many. The only thing he does not have is someone to share what he gained with. Lonely was he as no companion was of the same status as he nor of the same knowledge to be his companion. One day, hearing from one of his servants that a neighbouring kingdom is reknown for their women being both pretty and smart. The prince then pick his tunic and traveled to that kingdom. There he came before the king and ask the king for his permission to look for a wife in his country.  The king then look closely and examine the prince, then called the servants to summoned his daughter. Understanding what this means, the prince was all too eager to meet the daughter. the first girl that came into the hall was fair, pretty, and well dressed. Already the prince was charmed by her. The king noticed and as the prince was about to approach her, he boomed at the prince, that is not my daughter, that is my maidservant. Don't be silly going after her. For I cannot permit a prince to come to my house for my servant when I am ready to present him my daughter. Ambarrassed, the prince step back, stood next to the king and appologise. The next girl came in, and was 4 times prettier and more well dressed than the previous. The prince thought surely this is the one. But before he could move, the king said, ah, the personal maid is here. Wait a while longer. My daughter always walks behind all her servants. In anxiousness, the prince stood looking at all the pretty maidservants passby. Finally, enters the princess. At this the king came down from his throne and went to hold his daughter. Turning to the prince, he said. "This is my daughter. You can find no finer women in this whole country. I personally taught her manners and dressed her up with the best linen I have. She is my youngest daughter and my favorite. You can have her if you can promise me you will give her your best."After the lord finished telling his story. I resolved to only give my best since I will be getting the best. Time to stop looking at maidservants.